So C. left yesterday, despite my repeated and best efforts to persuade her to stay. I guess she had felt like our relationship wasn’t entirely working for a little while now, and her mind was made up. In the end I guess we did agree that we were both v. excited when we met — it was like, BAM! — but maybe things had reached a plateau of sorts. I don’t really know why that is.
Anyway, once it was clear I wasn’t going to change her mind, I did try not to make it too hard for her. I know we still care about each other heaps. Yesterday even did a little packing … although as I left for work Saturday, I made sure my XM radio playing on channel “Heart“, “love songs and soft music.” Did not want to make it tooo easy for her.
It was all v. sad.
Anyway, C. took her bed with her (but left the kitty-destroyed box spring), so I am sleeping on the sectional for the next few weeks. Half the furniture is gone. It is just me and the kitties.
The plan is to spend the rest of the month here, then move just south of Tribeca on Sept. 5. More on that when it happens.
P.S. Friday night we meet up for a meeting at the Film Center Cafe, one of our fav. HK drinking establishments.
“I have something to confess to you,” I say, gravely.
“What?”
“Well, after you told me you wanted to break up,” I say, pausing for effect and taking a sip, “I used your hairbrush on the kitties.”
“What! That’s your confession,” she says, laughing.
“They like being brushed,” I say. “They were getting hairballs. They needed a brushing.”
Pretty funny!
That’s pretty gay Big D. Get the cats their own hairbrush.
Wow, I haven’t been to the site in a few weeks and was surprised to see about the breakup after the move in together big step. Was she into the move-in initially or did you push it forward? Was it out of convenience on her part instead of a future together? Did you really take this seriously or was this just dating and see where it goes, but feel totally like she was the one for you, but just shocked that she broke up first? Also, no reason to give second chances or anything. like you said before, you should think about if you are a person who wants to be with someone, who isn’t sure they want to be with you, y’know??
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Also, can you tell me how you heard about the 88 leonard lottery? was it on curbed? or another website?
We were both into the move-in initially, and saw a future together.
“Second chance” wasn’t the right phrase, I should have used something different. Sometimes there are things in a relationship that don’t work that are fixable. Like someone always leaving the toilet seat up, or smoking pot, or whatever. (Not that I thought I did anything wrong, and I don’t think C. did either). I was willing to make an effort, but she didn’t see what she perceived as problems in our relationship as fixable. She just thought we were too different, I guess.
The 88 Leonard lottery was mentioned on Curbed, yes. I am pretty sure that is all over now.
Someone may learn to keep the toilet seat down, but they will still smoke their weed on the fly! 😉
You must get one of these for your cats:
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It works brilliantly.