It’s the topic that keeps on giving … Rachel‘s “who-pays” column, which quoted me, has inspired all this debate on feminist blogs. The topic is maybe played out a little, but the comments at Amanda Marcotte’s Pandagon are pretty interesting (55 and counting):
Most guys I’ve gone out with will give the initial offer to pay, but mostly because they don’t know you and don’t want to insult you if you expect it. That sort of thing feeds into it, but I don’t blame men, because all things told, reaching for your wallet is an act of good faith. But so is being respectful when the woman says, “Oh, I’ll get my half.” Being pissy and doing the whole Robert-esque “I show woman I pay food” thing is insulting, especially if you’re with a woman who you’ve indicated you find attractive because she’s competent and independent.
Also see Alternet, the Happy Feminist, and, as previousy noted, Feministing.
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